Here in sunny southwest Florida, summertime often comes with trips to the beach, water park, lake, and other outdoor fun. The routine and schedule of being in school have changed, and this change can be welcomed but may also be hard. For families grieving the death of someone they love, these cheery sunshine-filled activities may not feel good, and that is okay. Sometimes our feelings seem to be in such contrast with the outside world, and it can leave us feeling more like an afternoon thunderstorm than a sunny day.

We want to remind all of our friends who are grieving that you are not alone. We also want to share one of our most important Valerie’s House rules: It’s okay to feel.

It’s okay to feel sad.

It’s okay to feel happy.

It’s okay to feel angry.

It’s okay to feel guilty.

It’s okay to feel worried.

It’s okay to feel hopeful.

Whatever you are feeling, you are not alone, and we are here for you at Valerie’s House! Here are four activities you can try with your family and friends this summer.

Keep an old tradition. Did you and your special person who died enjoy fishing together? Try planning a time to fish in their honor, and maybe even bring their photo along with you. Did you like to go to the beach with your special person but just don’t feel like it this summer? That’s okay. You might want to try going on a special beach trip in their honor. You can write their name in the sand or build a sandcastle and name it after them.
Start a new tradition. Visit a new beach for sunset. Make homemade popsicles. Go for a moonlit walk in your neighborhood. Visit a state park you’ve never visited before.
Write it out. Draw pictures or write words to describe how you’re feeling. Sometimes when we write things down, they can feel less overwhelming.
Nature walk. Go for a walk outside in nature (beach, the woods, your neighborhood, anywhere outside works!), and collect items that remind you of your special person. Keep them in a safe space or even put them on display in your home.

Just because it’s sunny outside doesn’t mean we have to be sunny on the inside. Give yourself the time and space needed to feel your feelings, and reach out for support when needed. We are here for you.