Valerie’s House Volunteer Paying it Forward and Helping Others

Paying kindness forward. A young adult who grew up going to Valerie’s House after her mom died is now starting to volunteer to help other kids dealing with loss.

Thursday was National Children’s Grief Day. It’s not a day to celebrate but to make people stop and think.

The people at Valerie’s House help kids in pain every day.

“I’ve been coming here for seven years. My siblings and I have been coming here for seven years. It’s a place that just changed their life around. It changed my life personally in a way that not a lot of people would have done,” said Josselin Calderon, a volunteer at Valerie’s House.

Calderon lost her mom when she was 15. Valerie’s House helped her get through it. She said it was her turn to help others.

“Being able to help other kids and show them, hey, look, I was a mess, but I turned out to be just fine, and it’s the same for you. Just take it one day at a time,” Calderon said.

“The kids are so insightful, and they grasp the concepts that we put forward to them,” said Arinelle Lewis,  the group night and resource navigator at Valerie’s House.

Lewis said it’s important for kids to grieve in a safe, stress-free space.

“Just getting to watch them interact with the other kids and grow, the kids that start off kind of timid because it’s their first time. And then come for a few months and watching them grow and get more comfortable,” said Lewis.

Calderon said she misses her mom more and more each day, but she knows how to handle that. “I wish she was here. But I can say now that I turned out to be fine. I turned out to be OK.”

Now Calderon’s job is to show kids that they can survive the pain of loss just like she did.

Valerie’s House served as a shelter with food and necessary supplies for families impacted by Hurricane Ian.

They said grief is all around us.